One hell of a welcome to my blog...

Greetings!  Please, make yourself a refreshing beverage, take off your shoes, and grab a comfy chair.  I want to be the first to welcome you to my new blog!  I will preface this by saying, I'm not really sure how consistently I will be posting here.... In fact,  I don't know that there will be any posts beyond this one.  But, who knows...  I may be feeling verbose one day, and the medium offered by Facebook will just be too limiting.  So.... On with our story.

Today, I want to tell you about the last six months of my life.  Don't worry, it won't be a detailed day by day accounting of things, only two major topics will be discussed.  The reason I am doing this is, quite frankly, I am tired of answering questions for those who don't know what's going on.  Both topics are, quite frankly, less than pleasant to discuss.  Some of you know about one, or the other, but very few of you know about both.  However, some of you are beginning to put one and one together, and I've found I've had to tell more and more people what's happening lately.  So... to just let everyone know what's going on, and only have to do this one more time (hopefully), Here you go.

In November, I lost my job as a *insert cool job here* at *insert theme park name here*.  Now, contrary to what many people may think, I wasn't caught in some crazy scandal, or illicit act(lets be honest, no one actually thinks that, just sounds cooler).... quite frankly, I made an enemy, and that person happened to be placed higher in the food chain than I was.  You will get no details from me, if you haven't already.  Just know that it happened.  As a result, I am still employed in the same division, just in a lesser role.  It's taken me a few months, but I've discovered it was inevitably a blessing in disguise.  I had gotten burned out in my job, and the environment had definitely changed.  If I'd had it to do all over again, I would have done it voluntarily.  I am happy with the people I work with now, and have fun again.  So I've made the best of it.  Lemonade out of lemon number one!

Now, the whole lemon tree that I've not been able to find enough sugar or water to dilute yet.  In January, Jamie and I separated.  Yes... Take a minute... clean off your computer monitor from the spit take you as a result of drinking that refreshing beverage of yours.  Better?  okay...   If you want juicy details, you won't get them.  The people that need to know, already know.  All I will say is that it was a shock, but sometimes things happen that are beyond our control.  We have to deal with it and find a way to live with it. 

Now...  I want to make one thing very clear.  Jamie and I are okay.  We, in no way, hate each other.  Yes, things have changed, and we may not talk every five minutes like we used to, but we also don't have VooDoo dolls of each other... though that may explain that weird stabbing sensation I get occassionally... huh...  But I digress...  Now, for those of you who have been wondering why the dramatic weight loss, stress from event one, followed by event two, does that!  I just decided to use it to my advantage.  I don't reccomend that method to anyone though!

To Jamie's family. if you are reading this, I love each and every one of you.  You have become my family over these past 10 years, and you will always be family to me.  You have been more of a family to me than most of my biological family ever was.  I hope that doesn't change because of this. 

To my sister…  I can never thank you enough for being my sister.  Thank you for helping me through this, and everything you’ve done. 

To the mutual friends of both Jamie and I, I say the same.  You guys are all awesome.  Jamie said this on her blog, so I'll say it here as well.  Do NOT go and unfriend her on Facebook, stop talking to her, or anything else, on my account.  I am an adult, if that needs to be done, I will do it myself.  And quite frankly, I don't see that happening anytime soon.

You are entitled to your opinion on the matter, and can share them with me, but the first one of you that says anything derogatory or otherwise unkind about Jamie here, or on Facebook, or anywhere else, runs the risk of me being severely peeved at you.  Or more.  Jamie and I have to live with the decisions that were made about our relationship.  It's between the two of us and God.  Yes, you are entitled to your opinion and feelings.  I just don't want you to voice them in a public arena such as this, since you probably don't even know details of the situation.  You may ask me or us privately anything you want, just understand we may not answer you if we feel it doesn’t need to be discussed.

I close with this:  I love each and every one of you.  Through both of these experiences, I have learned the true meaning of friendship.  When I didn't think that life could get any worse, when I was at my lowest, and sitting in a therapists office... I got support and shoulders and offers of kindness from all directions.  There weren't a lot of people that knew... but those of you that did...  I can never thank you enough for keeping me from being a curled up mess in a dark room.

 

So, there you go.  I know both may be a bit much to take in at once, but again, some of you were just too smart for my own good.  Now go finish your beverage, and go on with your life.   If there's one thing that I've learned that I will pass on it's this:  Don't take anything for granted.  Things can change quickly.  Enjoy it.  And be thankful that you have it.  And if you do lose it, be thankful you had it to begin with.  The good memories will never fade.  :)


Thank you for reading through this 900+ word rant.  J  And read Jamie’s post for any FAQ’s, she covered it pretty well there.   Hasta